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Lakshmi PalaparambilDinesh (Cincinnati, USA)
I created this petition for a safer India. Please sign and share.
I created this petition for a safer India. Please sign and share.
I hope those in Delhi on 22 May 2013 will take time to attend the trial of Irom Sharmila Chanu the satyagrahi outside the Delhi Patiala District & Sessions Court morning session 22 May 2013. She has asked for support for her satyagraha but not through fasting. From 8-10AM musicians will use music to break down barriers. Jazz Hip Hop Heavy Metal Rock N Roll will show how musicians can play and perform with different styles with no violence with give an take. Artists dancers and those who wish to experience the event are also invited. Delhi will make non-violent protest a criminal offence but as the Supreme Court noted with despair it is still legal for soldiers to rape and murder the women citizens they were supposed to protect. cf http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/supreme-court-reiterates-concern-over-manipur-encounter-killings-351864
The govt's idea of solving the issue is to lower the age of consent for sex from 18 to 16? As if most rapes are perpetrated by boys in the age group 16-18. They are only interested in passing some measures for show's sake
I heard a British tourist who jumped from her hotel room window to escape the sexual advances of the hotel owner in Agra. This is SHAMEFUL http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/british-tourist-jumps-from-hotel-balcony-in-agra-to-escape-sexual-assault-344409
The story about the Swiss tourist being raped is abominable. She was with her husband! This country claims to have respect for marriage
How are we supposed to react?
"Singh, the prime accused in the December 16 gangrape of a 23-year-old girl here, hanged himself from the grill of his cell in Jail No 3 using his clothes early this morning, jail officials said."
I am happy to see many who have expressed their feelings here, added to this I feel the Indian TV Media and the motion picture industry should be responsible, industry should be banned showing scene of crime, esp. Rape, Murder, bloodshed etc. this media educates the public to commit a crime and how criminals have been trying to escape getting caught by the POLICE and escape from the law,
I see our society is media obsessed and follow the media hype.
In the recent past on TV media I have noticed that “Crime Stories “are reconstructed and dramatized with some spice and chilly added without understanding the facts, expecting a higher TRP (Television Rating Point). THIS IS DANGEROUS AND SHOULD BE STOPPED
Education and awareness should start at the junior school level; Media should have a positive educational attitude to the public.
The Ministry Information Broadcasting- Govt of India. should ensure it is mandatory that all channels including private and cable operators and theater have a slot for addressing societal issues, prevention of crime, Environmental issues, Renewable power, green energy, water management, Cruelty to Animals, so many topic that I would not be able to list for a better tomorrow.
Why this appalling incident is a turning point in History? Is that because of the inhumanity with which it was perpetuated? Or is that because, it occurred to a girl belonging to the vociferous middle class? No. This incident is a turning point, because, it dramatically brought before us the dangerous flaws in our society we live in as never before.
It was neither an isolated incident involving a psychopath, nor it happened for a vengeance. It happened so casually, with an audacity which still doesn't allow me to sleep. It is a slap on the face of all of us, who are privileged to have a voice in this society, starting from you and me, till the highest authorities of the state, up to the President of this Country.
If even after this incident, we are not able to ensure safety of our women in the public places, then all our achievements and success, both individually and collectively are a sham. If each of us do not stand up, and stop anybody misbehaving with the women, irrespective of the consequences, then every such incident will vigorously fuel the fire of discontent. Sooner or later, the state and its beneficiaries like us, will lose our credibility, and will be guillotined by the raising masses, if we live long to see that anarchy.
Anger is dangerous! It fuels itself and gives us a sense of power, righteousness, permission and protection. It leads us to justiy our actions. It protects us from other feelings we dont like or want to feel, such as shame, guilt, anxiety and perhaps sorrow or even depression.
But is it a good long term solution, can it really make those other feelings go away ? Or does it fuel itself and find outlets that are unhealthy and detrimental to our wellbeing and that of others around us ? Can we learn to regulate our feelings, to express them in better ways? Do we have a choice in how we feel ? How does 'how/ what we think,' impact how we feel ? Can someone make us angry or do we make ourselves angry by how we choose to think ?
Is there a need to learn how to prevent things from 'building up,' 'to address issues before they 'blow up?'
Should we work consciously towards building transparency, honesty, integrity, trust, empathy, compassion, and infact our Emotional Intelligence or are we going to continue to blame each other, score debating points over each other, while often actually saying similar things but being too caught up with our own anger and sense of unjustice to notice.
High time we woke up to the realization that the only thing we can 'really control' is infact 'ourselves.' Let's invest in ourselves, lets develop our social and emotional skills more consciously and intentionally. Let us endeavour to develop and strengthen our EQ. I believe this will go a long way in helping to build a healthier & happier community and World !
At the Mind and Heart Foundation, we have begun this process. If you'd like to know more about our work, write to us at email@example.com
I thought press/media/bollywood the 5th P is much responsible then the parents. From my childhood to now I see all kind of crime,only on tv in movies/serials. They shown it not as a criminal activity or offense. they picturize it as a interesting story with vulgar seens which develop a mindset towards the crime. Media people thought they serve the realistic image of society. I say they spread the crime they develop the criminal in human.
This is a note which i had written few day after the horrifying incedent took place.
I was going through NDTV's News Timeline, when i noticed these cases throughout the year:
Woman gangraped in Kolkata, Feb. 4, 2012
A 37-year-old Kolkata woman was allegedly gangraped by a man she met at a pub on Park Street and his associates. They drove her around the city and assaulted her at gunpoint. Chief Minister Mamata Banerjee almost denied the incident, insisting it was a conspiracy to defame her government.
Kolkata cop who cracked Park Street rape case transferred, April 4, 2012
Kolkata's Joint Commissioner of Police (Crime) Damayanti Sen was transferred to a low-profile post outside the city within days of cracking the February 2012 Park Street rape case that Chief Minister Mamata Banerjee had dismissed as fabricated to malign her government.
2007 Pune BPO murder case: Two convicts get death, March 20, 2012
Two men who, in 2007, kidnapped, raped and then murdered a 22-year-old woman working for a call centre in Pune were given the death sentence by the Bombay High
French diplomat booked for allegedly raping daughter, June 16, 2012
A French diplomat posted in Bangalore was booked on charges of raping his infant daughter. The case was registered on a complaint by his wife, an Indian citizen, who approached the police with the help of an NGO.
Girl molested by mob in Guwahati, July 9, 2012
A Class 11 student was assaulted and molested by a mob outside a pub in Guwahati. The abuse was filmed by a local television journalist and shown on the channel he worked for. The girl’s identity for revealed by the Assam chief minister’s office.
Marry them young, Khap panchayat’s solution to rapes, Oct. 7, 2012
Amid outrage over a string of rape cases in Haryana, Khap panchayats in the state come out with a bizarre suggestion that the marriageable age limit should be abolished. They claim it will check such crimes.
Cop tries to stop daughter’s harassment, killed, Dec. 8, 2012
Punjab police officer Ravinderpal Singh tried to stop a former Akali Dal politician from harassing his daughter. He was shot dead in full public view in Amritsar's Chehertha locality.
Medical student gang-raped in Delhi bus, fights for life, December 16, 2012
A 23-year-old medical student was tortured with her male friend and gang-raped by six men in a moving bus in Delhi. The two were thrown off the bus, bleeding and semi-naked. Amid raging protests on the streets, the girl is fighting a grim battle for survival in hospital.
Many cases donot even catch the eye of common people. So i thought of using the help of Google Search..and i was in tears to see the statistics.
More records: http://criminalrecordsindia.com/tag/rape/
And looking at current status of most recent case of Delhi, i have lost faith on the law and order of my Nation.Is our constitution so weak?? Do we really need more such cases to get our leaders to think about taking strong measures??
May be many innitiatives had been taken. But are they really helping us??
And what has happened to our society?? Are we even scared of God??Do our scriptures permit such kind of behaviour towards women??Are we really Human Beings?? or we no longer have a feeling of respect towards the female section of the society??Have many questions..but whom to ask these questions??
If we as a nation are serious in preventing all forms of sexual assault on our women we shall have to take collective responsibility. A single person cant make a sustainable difference. I see a lot of people writing answers that target a specific part of society - though i agree with them But I believe everyone is at fault and everyone needs to work together to really see some good being done.
Here is a plan of action for all contributing parts of society - a plan that is simple, and practical. But the key is that we will have too take charge of our specific roles and not wait for others to begin.
We begin with ourselves with whatever we have in view of the urgency. I term it as the six Ps plan for sustainable crime prevention to enhance safety for women.
6 P Plan for Sustainable Crime Prevention
The 6 P's are as follows:
First P: Parents/Principals
Second P: Police
Third P: Prosecution/Courts
Fourth P: Politician
Fifth P: Press/Pictures
Sixth P: Prisons
The first and most important P is parents and principals, both integral parts of ' People'.
No boy is born a rapist. He learns the language of his parents. He is either a product of care or neglect. His school is chosen by his parents, as is his upbringing. If a son is abusive, alcoholic or an addict who misbehaves with women, parents are equally responsible. He has either copied his parents, or he was nurtured poorly. Parents cannot escape responsibility for the misdemeanour of their son/s. Therefore, the message is be responsible parents by giving to society responsible boys. Without this, police alone cannot prevent crimes against women.
In the same group is P for principals. By this it is meant educators who are akin to parents in school. How they educate and inspire shapes the thinking of the students.
Educators are equally responsible for value education. As educators they strengthen the hands of parents in shaping mindsets of their sons and daughters. Parents and principals form the real foundation of people, called the community.
The second important P is police. This P has miserably failed to provide security and instil confidence among women. In fact, police are a risk by themselves. This is a matter of shame!
The real reason of this decay is rampant corruption that has eroded the service. Nothing is without a price. Police leadership has failed the country. If the Indian Police Service officers would remember for what they were recruited and who their first duty is towards, their whole approach to police would change. They would work with people, provide community policing, and ensure proper beat policing.
In other words, it means doing community policing in crime prevention with the help of NGOs, civil defence volunteers, NCC/NSS cadets, panchayats and private security agencies. There is no dearth of community help provided one is willing to prioritise crime prevention and safety of women.
The next P is the politician. This category has by its sad performance lost all credibility over the years. Some of them have become pests we can't get rid of. If they realise what they were elected for, crimes against women cannot happen, for they will inspire and educate people through all their interactions in their respective constituencies.
But what do they do when some of them are perpetrators themselves? They are law- givers. They have to provide strong laws, resources and ensure they do not interfere in the justice system.
This P is the most vital to provide the enabling environment for the earlier two Ps ( but this group only works when under pressure).
The fourth P is prosecution. This means the way we conduct trials in the courts. This P has failed the community by its delayed trials, shortage of judges besides releasing criminals, most of the times, unconditionally. This P is important for restoring the sense of justice.
The fifth P is Press/Pictures. This refers to films and the way they shoot item songs with skimpily clad women. Also the role that media has to play. The Press plays a large part in creating impressions. These do not enhance respect for women. They make commodities of women. Our entertainment industry needs to reflect on the way it is presenting women in films. Our Press needs to understand what is right and showcase that to the world.
The last P is prisons. This is where contamination has to stop and reforms have to take place as we did in Tihar.
If parents and teachers would nurture and educate, and police were to do crime prevention and investigations honestly, politicians were to serve the people with integrity, prosecution was to prosecute with speed, and prisons were to reform, our crimes would be low and women would feel safe.
The failure of one P weakens the performance of the other.
Let all six Ps deliver this year. Let this be our New Year resolve
Credits: I developed this plan with Ms Kiran Bedi - India's First IPS officer , While I was giving a TEDx Talk with her
This type of incidents are the most disgusting incidents that can ever take place.The main reason behind such incidents lies in the mentality of some cruel people.There are still people who think women are weak and so they take disadvantage of them.So,there should be a change in the mentality of the people,firstly.And,people commiting crime against women should be given the hardest punishment so that such cruel people always rethink once before commiting such crimes and learn to respect women.